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Two of my friends eloped this weekend. They traveled to British Columbia and got married. It's not legal for them to marry in Texas. Even though they own a home together, have been committed to each other for years and are both well into adulthood, they can't make their relationship legal and sanctioned in the state of Texas. They are both ladies, silvery haired, kick ass, Christian ladies.
It's been illegal to marry someone of the same sex in Texas for awhile now, but the pin-headed Republicans have put a proposition on the ballot that calls for an amendment to the Texas constitution to reinforce this law. They want to make sure no one gets married in Texas who isn't heterosexual, and in so doing, they join themselves with such people as the KKK and insist that the most important thing about marriage is one's gender.
As a former married person, I think this is kind of funny, as well as very sad. It makes marriage seem like a very simple thing indeed. I know better. Marriage requires more of a couple than that they be a certain gender combination. It requires commitment, maturity, the ability to tread lightly and softly and to create space in togetherness. More than that it requires you to know surely as you know your own heart that your committed to this very one person forever and ever and ever, that you know them well enough and yourself well enough to say in front of God and everyone that you will pledge your very life to them.
I always felt that my brief little marriage, though an attempt to do the right thing, though a trial by fire that taught me a hell of a lot in less than two years, was at heart, a lesson in how big of a deal marriage really is. If people want to try it, I salute them, whatever their gender, it's a brave, hopeful thing to marry.
In defining marriage, the Republicans cheapen it.
Two of my friends eloped this weekend. They traveled to British Columbia and got married. It's not legal for them to marry in Texas. Even though they own a home together, have been committed to each other for years and are both well into adulthood, they can't make their relationship legal and sanctioned in the state of Texas. They are both ladies, silvery haired, kick ass, Christian ladies.
It's been illegal to marry someone of the same sex in Texas for awhile now, but the pin-headed Republicans have put a proposition on the ballot that calls for an amendment to the Texas constitution to reinforce this law. They want to make sure no one gets married in Texas who isn't heterosexual, and in so doing, they join themselves with such people as the KKK and insist that the most important thing about marriage is one's gender.
As a former married person, I think this is kind of funny, as well as very sad. It makes marriage seem like a very simple thing indeed. I know better. Marriage requires more of a couple than that they be a certain gender combination. It requires commitment, maturity, the ability to tread lightly and softly and to create space in togetherness. More than that it requires you to know surely as you know your own heart that your committed to this very one person forever and ever and ever, that you know them well enough and yourself well enough to say in front of God and everyone that you will pledge your very life to them.
I always felt that my brief little marriage, though an attempt to do the right thing, though a trial by fire that taught me a hell of a lot in less than two years, was at heart, a lesson in how big of a deal marriage really is. If people want to try it, I salute them, whatever their gender, it's a brave, hopeful thing to marry.
In defining marriage, the Republicans cheapen it.
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